The Sexual Needs of A Man: A Guide to Finding True Love

Have you ever wondered what really turns a man on? What's under the facade of masochism and toxic masculinity?

As a woman or as someone wanting to satisfy the sexual needs of their partner, there may be many questions running through your mind: Do men get tired of sex? How much sex is too much sex? Is there even a thing as too much sex? What does a man need to fully satisfy his sexual desires?

The common perspective of many is that men are primal creatures that always and only seek physical pleasures and sexual satisfaction but really, that's not it.

Men's sexuality, just like women, is beyond the act of making love. It involves their emotional, psychological and physical needs. Men also yearn for connections, intimacy, and a sense of adventure and excitement in their sexual experiences.

You're in luck, because today we're exploring the world of male sexuality. We're looking at the intricacies, layers, nuances, and the twists and turns that makes a man really turned on.

Emotional Intimacy

Before we explore the physical intricacies that gets a man going, let's look into an aspect of the male sexuality that's often overlooked: emotional intimacy.

Emotional intimacy is the connection or bond that two people share built on trust, safety and security between each other.

While sexual desires are most times focused on the physicality of it, it's important to note the powerful role emotional intimacy plays in a man's sexual satisfaction and fulfilment.

For many men, feeling emotionally secure in a relationship is what allows them to express their desires and engage in intimacy on a deeper level.

So if you notice that sexual activities with your partner have become a chore, you might want to check your emotional intimacy.

How do you deepen emotional intimacy?

Quality Time:

They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but we beg to differ. Quality time makes the heart fonder because out of sight is out of mind.

Spending undistracted, meaningful time with your partner strengthens your bond and opens the door for vulnerability. The more time you invest in understanding each other, the more you create opportunities to connect emotionally.

Active listening:

Another misconception is that men don't enjoy pillow talk when in fact, men love to be listened to and understood.

Listening is different from merely hearing words. To deepen emotional intimacy, you must be ready to have open conversations and actively take in all what your partner says.

Verbal Affirmation:

Words have power and they can make your partner feel appreciated and cherished.

Who doesn't love verbal affirmation? This is quite important especially if your partner’s dominant love language is words of affirmation.

Compliment your man regularly, whether it’s his appearance, actions, or character.

Express gratitude: “I appreciate you for always supporting me.” Say “I love you” often and mean it — we hope you do.

With these tips, you're well on your way to deepened emotional intimacy which in turn satisfies your partner’s sexual satisfaction.

Physical Intimacy

Another common mistake made is equating physical Intimacy with sex.

While sex may be a result of intimacy, it is not the sole goal. Physical intimacy goes far beyond sexual activity and includes non-sexual gestures like holding hands, cuddling, or even a reassuring hug. These simple actions can have a profound impact on a man’s sense of connection, especially if his love language is physical touch.

Practical Steps in building physical intimacy

● Start your day with a warm embrace or a kiss.

● Spend quality, undistracted time cuddling.

● Take romantic walks and remember to hold hands.

By nurturing non-sexual physical intimacy, couples create an environment of closeness and trust that naturally enhances their sexual relationship. When a man feels valued through these small, meaningful gestures, he is more likely to feel emotionally and physically connected to his partner.

Sexual Frequency

Now we're at the juicy part of this discussion: How much sex is too much sex? Is there such a thing as too much sex?

The truth is that sexual frequency is deeply personal and varies from man to man.

For some, several times a week is ideal while others may find once or twice a month sufficient. What matters most is that both parties find a rhythm and satisfaction.

Men’s desires for sexual frequency are influenced by a variety of factors, including age, health, and personal preferences.

It's also crucial to note that no “one size fits all” standard exists. Some men may prefer frequent sex and others quality over quantity.

Strategies for Maintaining Physical Sexual Interest and Desire

It requires effort and creativity to keep the spark in a relationship. While life's duty may fluctuate, it's important to nurture Intimacy and prioritize sexual connection.

Practical Tips:

Create time for intimacy: Make intentional efforts to plan “date nights” or time alone, despite busy schedules which often push intimacy to the back burner.

Communicate frequently and openly: Honest conversations creates room for exploration and growth. Talk about your fantasies, what excites you, or any changes in preferences.

Experiment, experiment, experiment: Explore new experiences together. Try new locations, positions, or even playful surprises to keep things exciting. With this, there's almost always something to look forward to.

Maintained healthy habits: Sufficient sleep, healthy diet, and regular exercise boost energy and sexual vitality.

Focus on emotional intimacy: As previously mentioned, building emotional closeness naturally enhances physical desire.

Psychological Needs

When it comes to understanding men’s sexual desires, another key element that often gets overlooked is their psychological needs. A man’s mental and emotional state significantly shapes how often he's in the ‘mood’ (Yes, men aren't always in the mood). His preferences and experiences in intimacy are also hinged on this.

Power Exchange

Does your man love to lead during sexual activities or he lets you take the lead? Or even so, does he seem to mind?

The dynamic of power exchange is a delicate and complex aspect in sexual satisfaction. It plays a key role under the psychological needs of a man. A man who loves to lead would not feel satisfied if he's pushed to submission and vice versa. For some men, the interplay between dominance and submission heightens their sexual satisfaction.

Dominance offers a sense of control, responsibility, and leadership during intimacy. Submission involves surrendering control, which can be liberating and exciting.

For many, the excitement is in stepping outside of their usual roles in a safe, consensual setting.

Note: Clear boundaries and explicit consent should be set in any power exchange. It is non-negotiable. Have open discussions about fantasies, limits, and safe words to create a respectful and enjoyable experience.

Adventure and Excitement

Variety is the spice of life. Just like most things in life, adventure and excitement add an interesting touch.

In essence, a boring sexual life will soon spiral into a chore. And we don't want that. Sex is supposed to be exciting.

This excitement and thrill of novelty often drive men’s sexual fantasies. Incorporating new twists and experiences into a relationship can reignite passion and desire over time. Whether it's role-playing, trying new positions or exploring fantasies.

The element of unpredictability sparks heightened arousal and desire. Adventure doesn’t have to be extreme; even small changes in routine can create a thrill.

Ways to Keep Intimacy Exciting

Schedule “Adventure Nights”: Take out time to try new experiences, such as experimenting with different settings or techniques.

Surprise, surprise! : Try leaving spicy messages and suggestive notes or planning unexpected dates. Trust me, men love a good surprise.

Pillow Talk: At the end of the day, you know your partner better than anyone else. Have open conversations. Follow his cues and when you're unsure it's best to ask what he enjoys and what he's curious to explore.

Other creative ideas:

-Introduce sensual games that encourage trying new things in a fun, low-pressure way.

-Take a weekend getaway to change the environment and build intimacy.

-Explore fantasies together.