Tips to Understanding Men: A Guide for Women

The first thing you should know is that Men and women are wired differently. It’s also mostly believed that women are the ones that are hard to understand, and this is why we have more material on understanding women. What about the men? They deserve to be understood, too, cos there’s a lot more to men than what we see daily.

Just as men are different from women, men differ from each other. The personality type, likes, triggers, and emotions of men are not the same, and that’s why you need to understand exactly who your partner is as a woman. Understanding your partner would help you handle issues and also make your relationships better.

How Do You Understand a Man?

Every woman desires to know everything about her man and understand his every word, actions and emotions. Maybe if you know him, you’ll have fewer arguments and build a stronger relationship. So the question is, how do you understand a man? People think that you can totally understand someone by reading their mind, but that’s impossible!

The best way to understand a person carefully is to see how they react and process situations that they are faced with. So, as much as there are general traits that men exude from time to time, you need to pay attention to your partner's unique character and response to situations.

Here are some general traits or truths about men that most women are not aware of:

Men are Born to be Problem Solvers

Time after time, men have proven to be problem solvers. They can’t stand seeing a problem and not trying to find a solution to it. This is why they are always found fixing minor domestic issues, like a broken tap, car problems, arranging design wallpapers and lots more.

As much as they are problem solvers, they can only focus on one thing at a time. They are not multitaskers like women. They just want to focus on one problem, get it done and then move to another. That’s why most men don’t like to go grocery shopping.

Most Men Don’t Like Asking for Help

Just imagine this scenario where your partner needs to finish up a task, but he’s very exhausted, and you can see that he is. You expected him to ask you to help out, but he didn’t ask. It happens a lot between couples, and really, it’s not peculiar to your partner.

It is common to most men. Men don’t really like to ask for help because they feel like they should be able to handle things by themselves. It is majorly based on societal expectations of men, where they feel like asking for help means they are weak.

It might be a problem in the relationship because the other person feels like they are enough to help their partners when they can see that he actually needs it. Really, that’s how they are wired, and you need to accept it and find a way to make things work despite knowing this.

Sex is not All That’s on Their Mind.

This particular point might be very surprising, but it’s the truth. Yes, men have a high sex drive, but it doesn’t mean that all they think about all day is sex. Men have other things they think about.

The first thing in the mind of most men is how to live a better life and become the person they aspire to be. Societally, men have been tagged as the breadwinner or the head of the home, and fulfilling this role is one of the many things that they think about.

He can also think of what next step to take, how to handle an upcoming project, and what tasks he needs to do. So when next you see your partner in deep thought, don’t assume he’s thinking about sex or other women.

Men Also Like Compliments

Due to certain societal school thoughts, we have always believed that women should be the only ones who get compliments. The truth is everyone loves to get compliments.

Men love it when they do something, and you acknowledge that it’s amazing. It’s one of the things that keep them going. Yes, he might not show excitement about the compliments, but he sure really likes them.

If you also want him to appreciate you, you can start by appreciating him more often.

A Man Always Wants to Feel Like a Man

You can’t separate a man from taking responsibility. Yes, they have a partner to be a helping hand, but they never want to be in that space where they can’t be responsible or take charge. A man always wants to be in charge.

Yes, he’ll support you and cheer you on to being who you want to be, but he always wants to be the head. A man always wants to be in a space where he can solve his family’s problems; he is the provider and hero no matter what.

Women should always allow their man to be the man he wants to be and allow him to take charge.

Men Love Competition

Men are goal-driven people, and they always make room for getting better. There’s no limit to where they want to get to in life, so they are always in competition with their counterparts. He might also want to do better than you, so don’t resent him for it; it’s just how things are.

Being in a competitive state helps them to grow and do better. Just like other traits mentioned earlier, this is simply a part of their gender, and no one can take it away.

Men Don’t Care about Important Dates

Most men are not good with dates, and this has caused arguments and disagreements between partners. It can be so bad that a man might forget his birthday date.

Women are really keen on important dates and special occasions, and if a man doesn’t remember, it literally feels like the man isn’t paying attention. In the actual sense, it’s not a deliberate act; it just happens that way.

Same thing with sending a man to the grocery store; if there is no list, he’ll probably forget to buy one or two important items. His forgetfulness isn’t because he doesn't love you; the hormones flowing through our bodies are not the same.

Men Perform Better with Positive Reinforcements

Genuinely, men care a lot about their women and would go to any length to make them happy. Sometimes, the desire to make you happy turns out to be an issue that you’re not comfortable with, and everything just goes south from there.

Arguing for the action is not the way out. You can point out not wanting to be loved in a certain way without speaking badly of all the efforts made.

Rather, use positive reinforcement by complimenting and appreciating the efforts and then you go on to let him know how you actually feel politely.

Men Hate Nagging

Men hate it when women nag around them. You might assume that he can hear all that you’re saying in the process, but he can’t even hear a word because he feels very frustrated.

So they would prefer to leave you alone to a better place where they won’t be nagged at. When you want to discuss anything with your partner, ensure you don’t come in an accusatory tone; talk calmly and ensure that he’s listening.

Men Tend to Mask Their Feelings with Anger

When a man is always angry and maybe distant, he’s probably hiding his real emotions. Something may not be right, and he can’t bring himself to look less like who he is.

Men believe that when they express their true emotions, it may come off to women as being weak, and they never want to look weak. The only way to dudes this out is to make him feel safe and loved when he’s vulnerable.

It makes them more comfortable to open up about how they feel rather than being angry or giving you distance.

Men Have Different Interests from Women

Men and women have contrasting interests. What a man enjoys doing with his free time differs from what a woman enjoys doing, and really, you just have to accept that difference.

Some people are very lucky to find partners who share the same interests as them, but in most cases, they aren’t. This is why he gets bored or turns you down when you ask him to do something you love doing.

You guys don’t have to like the same things or have the same interests. You can be a couple and have different interests, and that’s okay.

Not understanding men is why some women decide to end relationships, and they conclude to say that they deserve better. You really do deserve better, but you have to take time out to find out why he acts in certain ways. Men will always be men, and it’s very important to understand the things that go through their minds and how they want to be loved.

Disagreements and arguments would be toned down massively if you could take the time to understand your man. Men won't be a hard nut to crack once you know certain traits about them.

Yes, the list of traits is endless, but remember, all these traits might not apply to your man. You have to take your time to find out which one best describes your partner and then find a way forward to make things better.